Trait #3

Trait #3

Emotional intensity is trait number 3. Read on to find out where you rank.

Beside each statement write the number that corresponds to how you feel about the statement.

1 if you think it's definitely false or is you strongly disagree
2 if you think it's mostly false or you disagree
3 if you think it's equally true or false, you cannot decide or if you are neutral on the statement
4 if you think it's mostly true or if you agree
5 If you think it's definitely true or if you strongly agree

1. I must admit that I'm a rather emotional person.
2. I cry easily at sad or romantic movies.
3. Sentimental songs seem silly to me.
4. Whatever my mood, I usually feel it intensely
5. I usually have strong feelings about people I meet.
6. I like people who approach life in a logical rather than emotional way
7. I usually try to control rather than express my feelings
8. Sometimes when reading something sad in the newspaper, I get tears in my eyes.
9. Many people seem like 'cold fish' to me.
10. When making an important decision, I pay more attention to the facts than to my feelings.
11. I would be too embarassed to cry in front of others.
12. I often laugh aloud in the theater at funny movies.
13. When making an important decision, I listen most to my feelings.
14. My feelings are on the mild side.
15. I get upset easily.
16. I'm glad to admit I'm not an emotional person.
17. I almost never cry at a movie.
18. Most people seem overly emotional to me.
19. I love with real passion
20. I like to keep my feelings well hidden from others
21. People who laugh aloud at movie theaters annoy me.
22. I sometimes have tears when listening to sentimental music.


Add up your scores from questions 1, 2, 4, 5, 8, 9, 12, 13, 15, 19 and 22 and that is your total score A.

subtract the numbers from statements 3,6,7,10,11,14,16,17,18,20 and 21. That is your total score B.

To get your total score A - B = ______

22 or higher and you're high on Emotional intensity and 21 or less and you're low on it.

If you and your partner both rank high on emotional intensity you will have a very animated relationship. You both find joy in everyday moments. The biggest challenge is realizing that there is not always happiness, sometimes you need to live through lows too.

If you are both low on the trait than you both react calmly to life's little kinks. You're both even tempered and sometimes complacent. The greatest challenge is learning to accept emotional storms when they arise.

If one of you is high and the other low you could have a bumpy ride. While the person high on this trait values emotion the low person doesn't as facts are more important. This most often leads to the high EI person being hurt. It's a difficult pairing because each of you wishes for an emotional state the other cannot provide.